Our Staff
To see information on our Board of Directors, please visit the Our Board page.

Executive Director
Neil Irvin

Neil_bestNeil Irvin is Men Can Stop Rape's Executive Director. Irvin recently served as Senior Director of Programs, a position he held since 2008, following five years as Director of Community Education. He joined Men Can Stop Rape in 2001.

Neil Irvin is a highly committed and collaborative professional with over 25 years of youth development and leadership experience. Neil is the Executive Director of Men Can Stop Rape (MCSR), which seeks to mobilize men to use their strength for creating cultures free from violence, especially men’s violence against women. He is responsible for leading the organization’s national work, as well as cultivating strategic partnerships with state and federal agencies and private and corporate foundations; and overseeing all programs, which include the award-winning youth development program, training and technical assistance for youth-serving professionals, and Strength Media public awareness campaign. 

Named one of the most promising “50 Strategies to Prevent Violent Domestic Crime” by the National Crime Prevention Council, the Men of Strength (MOST) Club, provides middle school and high school age males with a structured space to build individualized definitions of masculinity that promote healthy relationships. Since joining the organization in 2001, Neil has grown this program from one site in Washington, DC, to over 100 locations in ten states across the country. In 2007, he brought the MOST Club to every public high school in the District of Columbia, the largest city-wide effort of its kind in the country.

Well known throughout the country in the field of gender-based violence prevention, Neil currently serves on the Dept of Justice’s National Advisory Committee and is a member of the NoVo Foundation’s prestigious Move to End Violence initiative. He has also served as a consultant to The White House Commission on Violence Against Women and Girls, Boys and Girls Club, Ford Foundation, Big Brothers Big Sisters, and Liz Claiborne Foundation. In addition, he is an adjunct professor at the University of Maryland’s School of Public Health and has been a regular lecturer at American University, George Washington University, and Howard University. 

Neil has a long history of working to enrich the lives of youth, especially young men. Having worked as a basketball coach, camp counselor, and director of after-school programs at the YMCA, he decided to dedicate his professional career to working with youth as it always felt “inspiring, energizing, and effortless.”

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Deputy Director
Rachel B. Friedman


Rachel B. Friedman brings remarkable skills and talent to her position as the first Deputy Director of Men Can Stop Rape. Appointed to the post in May 2012, she began her career in the organization in 2008 as Development Coordinator and worked her way up to Director of Foundation and Government Grants in 2009.

Ms. Friedman works closely with Men Can Stop Rape’s Executive Director Neil Irvin, helping set priorities and direction for the organization’s short- and long-term goals. In this role, she focuses on the management of day-to-day activities of the organization, including the smooth integration of policy, development, finance, communications, programs, and administrative functions to ensure seamless operations and achievement of strategic goals. She leads the organization’s national Assault. Services. Knowledge. (ASK) project, a website and downloadable app that combines life-saving and pertinent resources for victims of sexual assault, domestic violence, and intimate partner violence, as well as their friends, family members, and colleagues. The project now includes UASK DC for all eight universities in the District of Columbia; ASK DC which hosts over 55 District resources and is available in eight languages; and the state-wide roll-out of ASK in Arizona, Connecticut, and North Dakota. Since 2010, she has played a lead role in establishing summer youth programs; is an architect of the organization’s youth development program for girls, Women Inspiring Strength and Empowerment (WISE); and collaborates on the development of the Emerging Leaders Program.

Ms. Friedman has served on the Leadership Council for the Victim Assistance Network of DC since she was elected in 2013. She has consulted to the White House Council on Women and Girls and participates on the steering committee for the NO MORE project, a groundbreaking symbol designed to galvanize change and radically increase the awareness of domestic violence and sexual assault in our communities. In addition, she leads high-level technical assistance, trainings, and workshops; and has provided keynotes that discuss the role of women in engaging men in healthy masculinity and the connections between Men Can Stop Rape’s work and Judaism. She has been interviewed by such media outlets as Al Jazeera, Fox News DC, NBC Washington, the Associated Press, the Washington Post, Liz Claiborne’s It’s Time to Talk Day, and Voice of Russia, to name a few.

Since joining the organization, Ms. Friedman has helped to secure over $5 million by seeking out new funding sources and engaging in outreach with funders and donors. She has been integral to developing other fundraising initiatives for the organization, including strategies focused on fees-for-services, marketing and public relations, individual donors, and special events. She has also helped plan large-scale events for the organization, such as the Healthy Masculinity Action Project, Solutions through Film, the Men of Strength Awards, and Capitol Hill briefings.

As Director of Foundation and Government Grants, she focused on deepening, renewing, and building relationships with funders from national foundations and federal government agencies, as well as local foundations and city agencies. These funders have included the NoVo Foundation, Open Society Institute, Verizon Foundation, U.S. Department of Justice, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, and the DC Mayor’s Office, to name a few. In 2011, she won Discovery Communications’ “Creating Change Award” to produce a signature public service announcement for Men Can Stop Rape.

Prior to joining Men Can Stop Rape, Ms. Friedman worked as a Research Analyst for the U.S. Department of Labor’s Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA). She also volunteered with a variety of women’s organizations – including the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, the Mass Alliance on Teen Pregnancy, the White House Project, and the New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault – as a researcher, writer, and special events planner. Her feminist background brings added dimension and depth to Men Can Stop Rape’s mission of creating cultures free from violence, especially men's violence against women.

Ms. Friedman holds an M.B.A from Trinity Washington University and graduated from the University of Massachusetts with a B.A. in Women’s Studies. She also studies group dynamics with the A.K. Rice Institute and provides freelance writing, editing, and financial consulting. She lives in Southwest DC with her husband, Adam, and is a proud native of Silver Spring, Maryland.

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Director of Strategy & Planning
Pat McGann, Ph.D.


Pat has been involved with Men Can Stop Rape since the organization’s inception in 1997. Pat oversees the licensing of Strength Media - Men Can Stop Rape's groundbreaking media initiative - which is widely recognized as the nation's best-designed and most effective public service advertising campaign of its kind.

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Director of Training and Technical Assistance
Adrian_Valdivia_HeadshotAdrian Valdivia

As the Director of Training and Technical Assistance, Adrian Valdivia is in charge of development, marketing, scheduling, facilitation, evaluation, and other aspects of Men Can Stop Rape (MCSR) trainings.  Adrian also contributes to the development of new and improved training modules and coordinates awareness-to-action workshops with local youth. Adrian also co-facilitates Men Can Stop Rape’s biannual Healthy Masculinity Training Institutes.

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Director of Community Education
Jason Page

Jay_Headshot_WebJason conducts Men of Strength (MOST) Club facilitator trainings locally and nationally, facilitates MOST CLUB weekly sessions at DCPS middle and high schools, and facilitates workshops at community events.

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Program Manager
Ebony Wheeler

Ebony Wheeler is a Program Manager in Men Can Stop Rape's youth development department. Ms. Wheeler oversees the daily functions, creative content, and facilitation of WISE Club (Women Inspiring Strength and Empowerment). Ms. Wheeler joined Men Can Stop Rape in 2013 as a powerhouse promotional street team member for ASK DC, a smartphone app that provides life-saving and pertinent resources for victims of sexual assault, domestic violence, and intimate partner violence. Her passion for bystander intervention and youth development made her a wonderful fit as key WISE Club facilitator and consultant.

In the past 2 years Ms. Wheeler has facilitated over 23 clubs in 10 DC Public Schools, played a significant role in developing WISE Club curriculum, made a huge impact on the lives of young women, and significantly furthered the goals of the DC Justice Grants Administration's truancy reduction initiative. Ebony Wheeler has expanded the impact of WISE Club by introducing new projects to the program such as "Young Professionals Week," a platform to engage area entrepreneurs with DC youth and provide internship opportunities. She has also empowered students to take action by helping them organize several social justice campaigns and community development projects. This year Ms. Wheeler planned and implemented "Project Me," a young women's empowerment conference, and created the first WISE Club leadership committee consisting of 7 High School Club members.

Ms. Wheeler is no stranger to community development and philanthropy work. Over the past 5 years she has volunteered with several organizations throughout the District of Columbia that focus on youth and homelessness. She also runs her own neighborhood based "Homework Club." Ms. Wheeler is the fundraising coordinator and a board member for the DMV- ALLSTARS youth sports organization. She also serves as the Marketing Director and Mistress of Ceremonies for the semi- annual WEE (Women's Entrepreneur Expo) founded in 2009.

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